Kindness...

It’s time. Some of the more aware among you may have noticed that the blog disappeared as of late. It did. Totally my fault, kind of. LOL. The ugly divorce monster showed up at my house and I lost my beloved wife of 29 years. She went a little crazy but we don’t need to discuss that now. The point is that the blog has risen, phoenix like, from the ashes. I’m back and going to be posting regularly again. Hurray!




So what do I write about on this momentous occasion? How about kindness? How about how terribly we tend to treat each other? Especially in relationships. Face it, it’s true. From giant fights to tiny emotional digs we are all frequently terrible to the people we supposedly love the most. And this makes me profoundly sad.




When one goes through a divorce it tends to change you. For many people they become jaded and bitter. For me it’s had the opposite effect. I’m more caring, more sensitive than I was before. Now I can’t help but notice how flat out mean many of you are. Why?




I think the basic answer is selfishness. We want everything exactly our way every time. Guess what? Most of the crap you fight about is irrelevant. Calm the fuck down. You and the crappy little things you want don’t fucking matter. But meanness does. Let’s have a little perspective, people. Be nicer. Especially you women. But more on that later.




I’m a positive person. I CHOOSE to believe that most people are kind most of the time. So why don’t our relationships represent this kindness? Maybe we can all work on this. It can’t hurt. Saor Alba, Vaya con Dios and Viva la Revolucion. ​